Welcome guys and gals to the man talk show. I'm Connor Beaton and today we're going to talk about

answering the question why you aren't motivated. So legitimately though, I get asked this question all

a time. Why do I not feel motivated? How come I can't be motivated to go to the gym? Why am I not motivated to make

more money? Why am I not motivated to have more sex? Where's the motivation, Connor? So we're going to

answer that question because this is a big one. This is a big one for a lot of people. Before I dive into that,

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So with that said, let's talk about motivation. So I can ask this question a lot of time

around why we lose motivation and, you know, how do we maintain motivation? And there's a lot of

research around motivation that has come over the last decade. But one of the most interesting

things that I've found in my own work with myself, in my,

in my work with my clients and in the men that I work with and the couples that we work

with is that there is a dark side to motivation.

And over the last decade or so, I really started to notice this part in myself that was an unhealthy form of motivation.

And what I started to identify over a few years was that how I would motivate myself was through

shame. And I started to see it in other people. I started to see the methods in which people motivated themselves to

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