Welcome. I'm Connor Beaton and today we're going to talk about anger as a form of forgiveness.

I'm going to start by reading a quick quote by a guy named David White. He's got some

incredible work and recently I dug into his book called Consolations, the Solace nourishment and underlying meaning

of everyday words. In it, David basically, he's a poet philosopher, and in it he basically

takes a single word and unpacks its meaning, really its truest sense or as close as he can get using other words.

So here's a quick quote from David White.

To forgive is to assume a larger identity than the person who was first hurt.

To forgive is to assume a larger identity than the person who was first hurt.

So in here, I really feel like he has captured the essence of what it means to forgive in the

sense that we have to, as he says, assume a larger identity than the person who was first hurt.

And oftentimes when we experience heartbreak, when we experience loss or grief, or there is a

feeling of betrayal and longing for something to have unfolded differently than it did.

We need to move towards a space where we can take on a larger perspective.

That forgiveness in essence requires us to have a larger perspective than the one that we entered into the pain with than we entered

into the hurt with. So, you know, if we, for example, go through a breakup in a relationship

and, you know, the relationship ends in such a way where we don't really understand why it has to

end.

And maybe one person leaves, you leave, or the other person has left.

And there's more questions than anything else. It can feel like a tremendous amount of disappointment and frustration of not knowing.

And we can spend hours and days and weeks and months ruminating over trying to answer questions

that never seem to end.

And at some point, the questioning actually becomes a larger problem than the need to forgive

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