Welcome. I'm Connor Beaton and today we're going to talk about why you need to let her win.

Now, obviously, this title might be a little provocative for some of the female listeners that might

piss some of you off, but hear me out before you jump in and make assumptions. So guys, this is obviously addressed to you.

I'm going to talk about just this concept of quote unquote, letting her win.

First and foremost, I do not mean like letting her win from a standpoint of going and playing

sports and, you know, sort of like, quote unquote,

ticking it easy. I don't mean that you should placate or play dumb or dull yourself down

to allow your partner to win or to beat you in athletics or in intellectual debates or in, you know, emotional or

sexual conversations.

Like, that's not what I'm saying.

This is not about giving your partner a one-up and putting yourself in a one-down situation.

What this refers to is specifically within the realm of conflict all right it's specifically in the realm

of conflict i have noticed after working with countless men and working with countless women and

working with countless couples that there is this very real theme where we can get caught the masculine masculine can get caught. Not men and not men specifically,

but the masculine within all of us, within men and within women and women can get caught in this

cycle of needing to win. And another way of thinking of this is that we can get caught in the cycle of needing to be

right. And I see a lot of partners that are, that get into conflict and move into their feminine

and want their partner to fight for them, want their partner to understand their perspective,

want the masculine partner to hear their side.

But if the masculine partner is so caught in the game of proving their point,

in the game of being right, in the game of winning,

then their partner has no hope of being understood or heard.

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