Welcome guys and gals to the man talks podcast. I'm Connor Beaton the host, founder of Mad Talks.

So I figured that because it's the month of love, you know, it's February and Valentine's Day is coming up, that we should jam on relationships.

And this has actually come about because someone reached out to me through the Mantox page and was asking about a relationship question

around complaints and criticisms.

This individual whose name I won't release, you know, for privacy purposes, asked me a question

about, you know, how to manage and how to deal with complaints and criticisms from his partner.

So this is something they're going to

dive into today basically I'm going to talk about why criticisms and complaints happen what they

actually mean and then how best to manage that situation so before I dive into it I just want

to quickly say I always appreciate your questions and you're reaching out if you have something that you want to ask me that you would love for me to talk about in these mini segments,

feel free to reach out through the Mantog's Facebook page or reach out through info at mantogs.ca.

And send me your questions, and I will jam on them on these mini interviews.

All right, so let's get started complaints and

criticisms i want you to remember something and ideally the easiest way to remember that is by

writing it down and what i would love for you to write down is complaints and criticisms

equal unmet emotional needs all right one more time complaints and criticisms equal unmet emotional needs. All right. One more time.

Complaints and criticisms equal unmet emotional needs.

So this is really, really helpful.

I found that for a lot of the guys that we work with in the Mantox community and that I work with specifically helping them understand that when their partner comes to them and is complaining about something

that they did or didn't do or criticizing something, the way that they did something,

that behind that complaint or criticism is actually in unmet emotional needs. So there's

something going on emotionally within the other individual that isn't being met. And the same is true for us. When we go to our partner and we're

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