Welcome, guys and gals to the Man Talks podcast. I am Connor Veeton, the host and founder of Man Talks.

And today on this week's midweek mini episode, which I kind of feel is like a tongue twister,

you know, like Peter Pecker peck to, I don't know how it goes actually. I actually have no idea

how that goes. But it feels like a ton twister, midweek mini episode, if you say that five times

fast. We're going to talk about letting it go, how to let things go. And I'm going to be using

the example of a relationship. I recently had somebody reach out to me through Instagram and say,

hey, listen, man, love the podcast. I've been tuning in for a few months now, and I've basically, like, consumed all the episodes. And, uh, you know, a few of the things that really hit home with me and really helped me. And, and I would love for you to do an episode on letting go recently. I was in an almost a year-long relationship. And it seemed to be going really, really well. I thought the relationship was going well.

You know, I thought I was a great partner. And out of seemingly nowhere, out of, out of the blue,

according to this person, the relationship ended for no good reason. And he was left trying to figure out what actually happened. And I thought, what a relatable story. Because unless you, A, live under a rock or B,

are some sort of like a magical unicorn that has never, has never experienced a relationship or a

circumstance where you think it's going in one direction and all of a sudden it completely

takes a left turn. We have all experienced this.

And what we can be left with is the challenge of not knowing how to actually move on.

Because what ends up happening is that our brain gets stuck in problem solving mode.

And the problem that's trying to solve is why did that person leave or why did that business fail

or why didn't I get that promotion or fill in the blank for whatever you're stuck on and can't

seem to let go of. So this is really the question that we get fixated on and our brain starts to

try and figure out the problem. It starts to bring up all of these potential solutions.

It's like maybe they were sleeping with somebody else.

Maybe they like ran away on the blah, blah, blah, blah.

Maybe, you know, maybe they like won the lottery and they don't want me to know

and they're taking off to Bali or like maybe the relationship wasn't as good as I thought it was.

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