Welcome to Episode 165, to many episode with our returning guest Guy Winch and our topic

is Low Self-esteem.

Let's get right to it.

I'm here with Guy Winch, who's a PhD and has a book out called Emotional First Aid,

and you have some great tools and tips for how to deal with common issues that people

have.

Let's talk about Low Self-esteem.

Yes, well, that's an epidemic, really.

It's an epidemic because it's one of those things that the people who have higher self-esteem

are very good at keeping it up, and the people who have low self-esteem are even better at

keeping it low.

So for example, research tells us that people with low self-esteem are actually really resistant

to compliments, authentic ones.

When their partners tell them something, good, oh, you know, you were very considerate,

it's very nice the way you did this, they bristle.

It makes them uncomfortable.

Because if their self-esteem is low, that seems to them that, oh, now there's an expectation,

which I'm never going to meet, so that just made me, now there's pressure, I'd rather

I didn't hear that in the first place.

Or they have an ulterior motive.

Oh, yes, certainly, oh, what do they want for me?

The thing about low self-esteem is that it's something we really have to look at as something

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