Welcome to many episode number 161 our topic is rejection and our guest again is Guy

Winch PhDs a clinical psychologist and he has a book out called Emotional First Aid and

he's going to share some tips with us.

First I want to read a couple of surveys that deal with either self rejection or rejection

by other people and this first one is from the body shame survey filled out by transgendered

female to male who calls himself Cade and Cade right I hate my breasts they are disgusting

and I want them gone if I could just cut them off myself like removing a tag on a new shirt

I would.

I feel awful about it but sometimes I think it would be okay if I got breast cancer

because then I would have a reason to get rid of them.

I was sexually abused by my dad and he always made a big deal out of them constantly trying

to see them and touch them.

I've always felt like a guy and in the wrong body but the main reason I want to transition

is so my dad doesn't find me attractive anymore.

That is intense and I'm sending you a big hug.

This is from the shame and secret survey filled out by a guy who calls himself Scott.

He is straight and he's 32 years old raised in the stable and safe environment.

Never been sexually abused has been emotionally abused.

My ex-wife ignored me and belittled my presence to the point that I sometimes truly wondered

if I even existed anymore.

I would have these weird moments where spoiler alert I felt like Bruce Willis' character

in the sixth sense and I was almost certain that I had died and just didn't know it yet.

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