Millie & The Controlling Daughter-In-Law - Narcissist Apocalypse, Grandparent Alienation

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🗓️ 24 December 2023

⏱️ 69 minutes

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In this episode, we wade through the heartache of family estrangement with our latest guest Millie. As we sit with Millie, we uncover the deep-seated intricacies of her role as a grandmother, whose love for her grandchild is entangled in a thorny relationship with her daughter-in-law. What started off as providing a home and childcare to her son's family, turned into shifting boundaries, dehumanization, and isolation within her own home. At some points, Millie was barely allowed upstairs, and not even acknowledged with the decency of a hello. Millie's story exposes the maze of grandparent alienation and the relentless pursuit to maintain a thread of connection despite the harsh reality of manipulation and control. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an alienated grandparent named Millie.
0:09.0	It's a story of daughter-in-laws, intergener. I am Brandon Chadwick and with me today, we have
0:43.5	Millie. How are you? I'm fine, Brandon, nervous? Well, everyone is nervous and just thank you
0:51.9	for being here. You're going to share your story today.
0:55.0	It is a different story than we've ever had before because we've never had a grandparent on.
1:00.7	And this is a story of, you know, alienation of the grandparent and the parent and everything that you're dealing with.
1:08.1	And now I'm going to get out of my way and your way.
1:12.1	Millie, the floor is now yours.
1:16.1	Thank you, Brandon. I really appreciate you listening to my story because it is different
1:24.3	than what you've heard before. So I thought I'd start with a little bit about my background.
1:32.0	I grew up in what I think was a pretty normal family.
1:36.3	And by normal, I don't mean without conflict.
1:41.2	And I see that these type of manipulations are used by everybody at some point.
1:49.6	And I saw them occur in my family.
1:54.0	But when people did these kinds of things in my family, their actions were called out pretty quickly, and behavior always
2:04.1	changed. And this made me grow up by thinking, I think by always giving people the benefit of
2:14.7	doubt and by thinking communication is the key to a good relationship.
2:23.3	So I've been married for 42 years, and I can't think of one time that my husband and I didn't just talk over an issue and resolve it.
2:37.1	This experience with my daughter-in-law has made me search my memory for how I was as a mother
2:47.0	that might have left my son vulnerable to this type of personality.
2:54.9	And I really don't know how to describe the kind of amnesia you get when you search
3:02.4	and search your memory like this.
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