Sometimes you got a present when you want a friend, all you got to do is present, present.

Welcome to press send. I'm Chanel Exander and this is the podcast that we talk through all of your problems

and I attempt to give you my best advice today. We have Deer Beth. Beth, are you in New York? Where are you?

I, well right now I'm in South Carolina. I usually live, but my family is based in New York, so I kind of get the best of both worlds.

I previously lived in New York City for about 13 years in my like mid 20s to mid 30s. And then I got really burnt out and an ex actually told me how amazing Charleston was and I visited and I fell in love and it's it's so beautiful there.

I don't want to tell more people how amazing it is.

You don't want to tell all of us New Yorkers to come like yeah, round our way down there, but I will say Charleston's one of my favorite places and the food

cannot be cannot be topped. Yeah, I could do a whole podcast on food, but I mean the maybe you should do a podcast on the food of Charleston or like something because it's it's glorious.

So tell people just a little bit about you before we get started.

I am well, I just turned 44 last week, although in my head, I'm still like 27 got it.

I am a project manager for an amazing software consulting company and I love my job.

I've lived in New York. I've lived in Colorado. I lived in Texas for a brief time, but no offense to Texans. I couldn't really do the politics there.

And I was just a very strange place. So then I moved back to Charleston in November.

Nice.

Relatively like always been single, like being single, although I'm probably a little too independent for my own good, have a hard time letting people in.

But I guess the big the reason why I put my email in when I saw that you were looking for people to talk to is because I'm kind of going through a time that you like know is coming with your parents being older, but you kind of are like try not to think about it.

So my mom passed away on June 3rd, sorry, and it was very, very sudden and she hid her health problems from me. Like I knew she had heart issues, but I didn't know how bad it was.

And she actually like told her best friends not to tell me how sick she was.

So, and she had kind of been in and out of hospitals for years, like she had opened her surgery in 2013.

So you kind of get used to like going in and coming out and going in and coming out and then I like literally didn't even have time to go up up to New York to say goodbye to her and she was gone.

And it's it's a pretty challenging situation. There's like I feel like there's four situations in one and I'm feeling pretty lost.

So my parents split up when I was 24, so my dad really isn't in the picture.

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