MICHAEL GERVAIS | Get Over What Others Think of You
Order of Man
Ryan Michler
4.8 • 9K Ratings
🗓️ 26 December 2023
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
Fear keeps most men from pursuing meaningful and fulfilling opportunities in life – whether romantic, a business start-up, having a hard conversation, asking for a promotion or the sale, etc. But it really isn’t what we think it is – the fear of failure. More often than not, it’s the fear of what others may think about us that keeps us from going after what we desire.
My guest is Dr. Michael Gervais, a psychologist who studies mastery and what keeps us from obtaining it. In fact, he has worked with Super Bowl Champions, Olympic Gold Medalists, and some of the most elite performers in the world. Today, we discuss FOPO (fear of people’s opinions), the first rule of mastery, why we care so much about what others think, how we over-index approval as a necessary part of tribe building, and the dangers in being a one-dimensional man.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
- What keeps us from obtaining mastery
- Fear of people’s opinions
- The first rule of mastery
- Why we care so much about what others think
- The dangers in being a one dimensional man
- Single focused mindfulness and contemplative mindfulness
- How to be present
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| 0:00.0 | Fear keeps most men from pursuing meaningful |
| 0:02.7 | and fulfilling opportunities in life, |
| 0:04.8 | whether romantic or a business startup, |
| 0:07.4 | having a hard conversation, asking for a promotion |
| 0:10.1 | or the sale, et cetera. |
| 0:11.9 | But it really isn't what we think it is, |
| 0:14.8 | the fear of failure, more often than not, |
| 0:17.2 | it's the fear of what others may think about us |
| 0:19.9 | and that potential failure that keeps us |
| 0:22.3 | from going after what we desire. |
| 0:24.4 | My guest today is Dr. Michael Jerve, |
| 0:26.6 | a psychologist who studies mastery |
| 0:29.0 | and what keeps us from obtaining it. |
| 0:31.4 | In fact, he's worked with Super Bowl champions, |
| 0:33.6 | Olympic gold medalists, |
| 0:34.6 | and some of the most elite performers in the world. |
| 0:37.8 | Today we discuss FOPO, |
| 0:39.2 | which is fear of people's opinions, |
| 0:41.5 | the first rule of mastery, |
| 0:43.2 | why we care so much about what others think, |
| 0:46.0 | how we over index approval as a necessary part |
| 0:49.4 | of tribe building and the dangers |
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