MFP 308: The Power of Asking for Forgiveness

Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family

Parenting, Parent, Podcast, Marriage, Religion & Spirituality, Catholic, Christianity, Kids & Family, Family

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🗓️ 4 November 2024

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

“Genuine humility never disturbs the soul. Rather it is accompanied by peace, joy and calm” St. Theresa of Avila

Summary

What is the biggest problem in Catholic marriages? Although we appreciate good communication tools, marriage insights, and mentors - at the end of the day the biggest problem is simply a lack of holiness. One essential tool in our quest for holiness is learning how to ask for forgiveness. When we have conflict in our home, we all need to ask ourselves the question - what could I have done differently? When we take ownership in this way, we can repent to God and then ask forgiveness of our spouse or children in order to repair that relationship. Often we will focus only on our sins and try to amend our lives, but in addition to those good things, we also need to seek to reconcile the relationship and ask for forgiveness.

Key Takeaways

When there is conflict in the home, we always need to ask ourselves how have I contributed to this situation and what could I have done differently?
Taking extreme ownership means that you don’t make excuses, but instead recognize that the past does not have power over you any more. You always have a choice.
When you are aware of your weakness, you are more open to asking for forgiveness and growing in holiness
Asking forgiveness also repairs the rupture in the relationship that happens as a result of our actions.
When you ask forgiveness and make your heart pure through Confession, then you are able to more clearly see God. “The pure in heart shall see God” Matt 5:8
A daily examen should include asking for forgiveness of family members we have sinned against.

Couple Discussion Questions

Reflect on your marriage and children and ask God to show you areas in which you need to change. Go to your spouse and children and ask their forgiveness.
When can we do a daily examen in our household? How can we incorporate regular asking of forgiveness?

References:

Dealing with Failure podcast: MPF 140

Forgiveness MP 060

Forgiveness and Transformation MFP 165

Romans 12

Matthew 18:21-35

Guide to Parenthood: Forgiveness in the Family

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0:00.0	Family, all in this together.
0:08.2	Family, we're taking a chance.
0:10.8	Family, like birds of a feather.
0:13.3	Family, we got my shoes and dance.
0:15.4	Hey, we are Mike and Alicia Hernin.
0:17.4	We have 10 kids and grandkids too, and we are here for every parent. Because we are on a
0:22.2	mission to empower moms and dads to embrace their sacred calling. So join the conversation.
0:28.0	Family, we're taking a chance. Welcome to the podcast. So glad you tuned in today. Today we have a challenging topic for us, a topic that I think
0:42.2	there's a lot of advice out there on marriages, lots of experts giving us lots of theories that if
0:48.7	you check off the list, right, you're like, okay, I've got this. We've got United Vision on finances or we've
0:56.0	got our discussions on religion or the, and all those things are very important. Or different
1:00.6	like communication tools, I feel like, um, and all of these things, we're not saying they're bad
1:05.6	at all. Like, no, they, I think that they are really, really needed. Um, and I think that,
1:10.3	and we've even talked about being aware of like your own woundedness and your own expectations in marriage and all of that.
1:16.7	But there's one piece, one tool, I think, that's actually really not just important, but actually essential.
1:25.6	Yes.
1:26.0	To repairing relationship. And that is asking forgiveness.
1:31.8	And I don't think, and if somebody out there has found this, like, please let me know.
1:37.8	But I don't know if I have heard of people who are giving marriage advice or marriage courses.
1:46.4	Yeah.
1:46.9	Talking about the power of asking for forgiveness.
1:51.4	And so, but really what it comes down to, how can we all have better marriages at the end of the day?
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