MFP 270: Do Catholic Wives Have to Obey their Husbands?

Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family

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🗓️ 22 January 2024

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Mike and Alicia keep diving into the complex relationship of man and woman in marriage. It is vitally important that we keep in mind that we need to act according to our nature to have a successful, peaceful marriage! Part of this is realizing that there is a dance that happens between spouses - that is the giving and receiving. So what some fundamentalists may call “headship” we would say this is really men giving to their wives and families because this is what enables them to receive. What others may call “submission” we would say is really women receiving from their husbands in order to give. This is where the idea of “mutual submission” comes from. Both men and women are called to give and receive, but it is in a different order.

Listen in and send us your questions! We would love to tackle them in a future episode!

Key Takeaways:

The Fall broke the unity between husband and wife and made them distrust each other. Adam was passive and Eve took the initiative. This was disordered.
Jesus elevated marriage to a sacrament and called us all to something greater. To a supernatural call that only He can give us the grace to accomplish.
Both husband and wife are called to give and to receive, but the order is reversed. Men are called to GIVE in order to RECIEVE. Women must RECIEVE in order to GIVE. This is the difference between leadership and submission.
Husbands need to learn to receive from their wives, and wives need to learn how to give from their husbands.

Couple Discussion:

What does our “dance” look like in our home? How to be operate when we make decisions? When we run the family?
How easy is it for him to give first in our home? How can we both support that initiative?
Are there areas in which he is receiving without giving?
Are there areas in which she is giving without first receiving?

Resources

Fr. John Riccardo on Ephesians 5 and Marriage https://watch.actsxxix.org/marriage-through-the-lens-of-scripture/season:1/videos/3-ephesians-5
MFP 181 The Role of a Submissive Wife https://messyfamilyproject.org/mfp-181-the-role-of-a-submissive-wife/

Role of a Husband Blog https://messyfamilyproject.org/blog/the-role-of-a-husband/
MFP 186: Role of a Catholic Husband https://messyfamilyproject.org/mfp-186-the-role-of-a-catholic-husband/

Transcript

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0:00.0	Family, all in this together.
0:08.2	Family, we're taking a chance.
0:10.8	Family, like birds of a feather.
0:13.3	Family, get off my shoes and dance.
0:15.4	Hey, we are Mike and Alicia Hernin.
0:17.4	We have 10 kids and grandkids too, and we are here for every parent. Because we are on a
0:22.2	mission to empower moms and dads to embrace their sacred calling. So join the conversation.
0:27.7	Hello, messy families. Welcome to the episode. This is an anticipated episode at least, I think, because we had a conversation that really was going so long. So we wanted to give you fullness of it in two different. We don't want to make it too long. I mean, because we're going on and on. And I think it's just such an important topic. Yes. That we were like. We don't want to lose anybody in this. Yeah. And also I think I didn't
0:54.8	want to, we didn't want to rush it. Yeah, we didn't want to rush it. So even though we actually
0:58.5	did cut out some things. I know, I know. So what we're going to do is we're going to jump
1:03.6	back, pick up again in that conversation. But we, we're heading right into Lent. And so we want to encourage you if you haven't already, haven't considered to join us for
1:13.4	Canaan 90.
1:14.0	Canaan 90 is a couple, a Lentan program for couples.
1:17.6	Right.
1:17.8	Daily meditations, weekly activities for the family, whether you are newly married,
1:23.9	you've been married for a while or you're even empty nesters, right?
1:27.7	I probably, you have something to really meditate on and give you, give you a chance.
1:34.1	It will give you a chance.
1:35.8	Canaan 90 will give you a chance to really double down on your vocation this length.
1:39.7	And that's, that's the thing about Canaan 90 is that it's encouraging you to look at your
1:43.6	vocation as a wife,
1:45.1	as a mother, as a husband, as a father, and decide on your commitments for Lent in light of that
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