MFP 204: When Loving Your Spouse is Hard
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family
4.9 • 841 Ratings
🗓️ 22 August 2022
⏱️ 60 minutes
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Summary
Love should be seen as something which in a sense never 'is' but is always only 'becoming'" ~ St. John Paul II
All marriages go through a cycle. That cycle includes times of romance, when everything is going well, your love is full, and you are working as a team. It also includes times when things aren't so great - we call this "disillusionment". Disillusionment is when you don't have the feelings of being in love; you may not even like your spouse very much! This is when we feel dry and even alone in our marriage and we need to choose to love. It is like times of dryness in our spiritual life. We still show up to mass, say our prayers, and go through the motions, but we don't feel close to God. Our marriages can be like this as well! We need to learn that we still need to show up to work with our spouse, choose to smile and be kind, and speak with affection, even if the feelings aren't there. In this podcast, we describe this part of the cycle of marriage and give some encouragement on how to deal with it and move through it because when you do, it leads to true joy, a love that is deep and real because it has been tested and tried.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the messy family podcast. |
| 0:05.0 | Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family. |
| 0:10.0 | Hosted by our parents, Mike Hernan and Alicia Hornin. |
| 0:15.0 | They're pretty awesome, but they're not experts. |
| 0:18.0 | Because family life is really messy. |
| 0:28.9 | Hello, messy families. It is a beautiful day in the neighborhood. Thank you for joining us. |
| 0:35.1 | Yes, hello. Nice to be back. Mike was solo there. I know. What the heck was going on? I know. |
| 0:57.3 | Our life is just too crazy. We wanted to get the podcast out. We wanted to be consistent for you guys. Do it on Monday. Even if you can, you know, give her a little spiel at the beginning. Why know? But, but, you know, I feel like summer, I thought, I thought, I had the false idea that summer was supposed to be a time to slow down and relax. And I am like actually looking forward to the normal routine of fall to start up again. Yes, because I think routines are good. |
| 0:59.4 | And we're actually going to do a podcast. |
| 1:00.8 | I know. |
| 1:01.2 | Teaser. |
| 1:01.8 | A couple weeks. |
| 1:02.4 | Yes, |
| 1:02.6 | spoiler alert. |
| 1:03.5 | It's going to be awesome. |
| 1:04.9 | I personally love routines and I find it very difficult to constantly be switching. |
| 1:11.3 | And there's a few things that we've tried to do like dog training that we've done this |
| 1:17.0 | summer. |
| 1:17.3 | And then like our boys were signed up for this online thing. |
| 1:19.7 | We have had to reschedule or we forgot about it so many times because everything is all |
| 1:25.0 | over the place in summertime. |
| 1:27.7 | Yeah. And it's, and I think a lot of people are this, you know, your vacationing, you're doing. |
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