Messy Rooms: A Flying Higher Moment 011

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Narcissism, Christianity, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Spiritual, Christian, Self-improvement, Education, Divorce, Marriage

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🗓️ 22 February 2025

⏱️ 7 minutes

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Summary

What if the real problem isn’t the messy room, the frustrating coworker, or the difficult conversation—but the lens you’re seeing it through? In this episode, we dive into the story of Sarah, a mom who transformed her daily frustration by shifting her perspective using the CLEAR model. If you’re ready to reclaim your peace—without waiting for anyone else to change (because we all know THAT ain't happenin')—this episode is for you!
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0:00.0	Hello, beautiful butterflies. Welcome to another flying higher moment. Have you ever been in a situation where you were convinced that the situation was the problem? If only the situation would change, then you could finally feel peace. Today, I want to tell you a story about Sarah, a mom who thought
0:24.4	the same thing. Every morning she'd step into her teenage son's messy room, and before she even
0:30.8	opened her mouth, she was already frustrated. But what if I told you the real source of her
0:36.8	frustration wasn't the mess that she could see?
0:40.3	Stay with me because this one shift could change your entire life.
0:45.3	Sarah's mornings looked like this.
0:48.3	Open the door, see the disaster zone, feel her blood pressure spike, and immediately think, he is so disrespectful.
0:57.5	He doesn't care about me or this house. Cue the anger, the lectures, the threats, and the result,
1:06.3	a worsening relationship with her son and an even messier room. But when Sarah learned the
1:14.2	clear model, C-L-E-A-R, she realized something powerful. Her son's room wasn't the problem.
1:24.0	It was the lens through which she was viewing it.
1:33.0	You see, she had a belief that a messy room meant he didn't respect her.
1:38.3	And that belief triggered her anger, which then led to reactive actions. And the result?
1:40.3	A cycle of frustration and distance.
1:43.5	So what changed? Sarah decided to shift her lens. Instead of
1:49.3	believing he doesn't care and he disrespects me, she tried on this idea. My son is learning to
1:57.1	manage his space. That one shift softened her emotions, leading her to approach him with curiosity
2:04.5	instead of criticism. She stopped lecturing. She helped him create an organization system that
2:11.4	worked for him, and guess what? The room got a little bit cleaner, but the real transformation was in her piece.
2:21.8	So try this today. Think of an emotion that you experienced recently and write it down.
2:29.4	Then think about where you felt this emotion in your body. Did you feel it in your head, in your chest,
2:35.8	in your stomach? Write that down too. And then rate the intensity of that emotion from one to 10,
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