Hi everybody, welcome to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today

we're going to be talking about clean and messy endings. As you are listening to this, it is January

4th and early bird enrollment for the next program opening for From Dating to Exclusive is on January 22nd.

So we're coming down to the final weeks to join the waitlist, get a discount on the next program,

and get bonuses for joining. So make sure you get on the wait list to learn more about coaching and get all of those

benefits, including a free sample of the workbook that we will be using together and working

from during our time together. Also, make sure to get my free guide called copy and paste texts for

when he's pulling away or acting flaky. The link for that

is going to be in the show notes of this episode as well. So I'll start by saying this. In all of my years

as a dating coach, I've never seen a client create a desirable result from lingering communication with an ex. That can be an ex-boyfriend.

It can be someone that she dated in the past, someone that she had feelings for, but things

didn't develop, or they were unavailable for some reason. And I've been coaching people for more

than five years. So I've seen a lot of things. I've seen a lot of messy endings. I've seen

a lot of lingering contact and conversation. I've experienced it myself. I've done it myself. And I've never seen

that lead to the initial goal someone had for themselves and this area of their life. So let's talk

about why we do it. So if the general feedback and results from this, from our own experience and also what we probably see with other people, is negative or not what we're desiring, why do we do this?

The first reason why we do this is because we hope that maybe things will change. And

usually we're hoping that the other person will change. We're hoping that they become more

available or they treat us in a way that we wanted them to, but they just weren't capable of it at the time, but maybe now

they've grown, or maybe they'll finally see how great we really are, or how great we'd be

together, or maybe they'll just have a wave of motivation come over them, or maybe the timing

just wasn't right, and they just need to mature a little bit or realize

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