Welcome to the InTouch podcast with Charles Stanley for Friday, May 8th.

What we say to our children and what we don't can leave a lasting impact.

Listen to part two of messages parents send and discover how your attitudes and behaviors matter.

All of us are communicators, and we're communicating messages sometimes very overtly.

We say, I love you, or we may say, I don't like you.

Or sometimes it can be a very subtle kind of communication.

And you know that you can look with someone else and look in their eyes and never blank and send a message.

I love you.

Or you can send a simple facial expression of approval or disapproval.

Or with your gestures you can talk about without even saying a word,

something about how intense you're feeling. And the way you carry yourself, either humped over or standing straight, there are all different kinds of ways we communicate, sometimes in pure

silence. We were all communicators. And there's one group of communicators that I want to talk about primarily, though all of us are and all of us are sending messages and sometimes they're good, sometimes they're not so good. And the problem is that oftentimes we don't realize what we communicate. Because you see, it's not what we think. It's what we communicate to people that impacts their lives.

And I want us to think about these messages that we send as parents. So what I would like to do

to make this very practical is this. I want to illustrate some of those circumstances that all of us

as parents deal with in our life. And what I want to do is give you the

illustration. Then I want to show you how we respond sometimes. Then what does the child

hear? And then how should we do it? So let's begin with something very simple, and that is,

for example, father comes home and he says, guess what? When the lady gave me the change today, she gave me

$7.52 more than it was coming to me. So I'm $7.52 to the good. And besides that, when she

checks out this evening, she's going to have to shell out the money because she gave me too much.

Ho, ho, ho. The father brags about how much money he earned by stealing.

The communication of the child is this. My father's dishonest. My father doesn't care that that woman's

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