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It's I-do Part 2.

I'm Cheryl Burke, one of your celebrity mentors here on the podcast.

And today I'm excited because I'm going to chat with someone who has successfully found love again in their chapter two.

She's an award-winning journalist, author of How to Metapause, women's health advocate and host of

her own podcast, The Tampson Show. Everyone, please welcome Tampson Fidel to the podcast. Thank you you so you're in your i do part two i am

and i do think it's going well i like it i like it's going well let's go back to the i do part one

first though okay okay we can do that one um i'm also divorced and i am i would say maybe heading that direction to that part two. Okay. Oh, good. I like that. But I'm not dating, nor do I have any interest. So I don't know if I'm heading that direction. But right now, I'm dating myself. How, so your first marriage, you guys worked together. You were matchmakers. Say more. Yes. Yeah, There was a lot to say. Yeah. You know, I met my first husband. And I was at an age where I'm like, oh my gosh, I have to, I have to like hustle this up and get married. Like, you know, because then I thought there was this real critical timeline. I kind of had a hit. And I was a little bit older than the regular timeline and so I met him and it was just like kind of fast and furious and now we call it

maybe love bombing but then I was like he must love me a lot so we got together we had started a

business we had moved to New York I was at the time working as a news anchor, and then he was working this

business, matchmaking business, called the Love Consultants. And we were having a great time.

You know, we were setting people up. We were, you know, socializing. We were, it was, it was wonderful

for a while. And then, you know, it just, I think you realize in some, at some point, like, wow,

I feel very lonely in this place. And that's what had happened to me. And I was like,

this is not working. And I'm scared now to admit that like, this is not working because now I have

failed. And so that was very worrisome to me for a long time. Eventually, it came to a place where, you know, divorce was the only option. And I went through that and I thought to myself, oh, my gosh, I'm embarrassed, I'm ashamed. Now I look back and I was like, what was wrong with you? This didn't work out and it's okay. And it really took my father coming to New York visiting me and we took a long walk in the village one day and he was like, it's okay. You don't always have to win and everything. Like, it's okay. That's where it is right now. And I felt like it gave me a little bit of grace. And I left that relationship and I was like, I'm never getting married again again I'm never falling in love again I never

never never and then you know fast forward 10 years later and 10 years yeah single for 10 years I was

I went through the divorce separation I was 41 so it was about it was 40 actually was the separation

so I started at 40 and I got married again at the age of 50. And even that, I was a little like, oh, am I allowed to wear white? Am I allowed to wear a pretty dress? Can I have a big wedding? And then I was like, you know what? I'm doing all those things. Right. And so it's been pretty amazing, but I really did have that in my

mind, like, I'm never doing that again. When you were single, was it like, oh, I feel so lonely,

or were you thriving? I did both, you know, I did both. So I always had remembered, my dad had said,

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