Welcome back to the female dating strategy, the meanest female only podcast on the internet.

I'm your host, Diana.

And I'm Rose. And today we're discussing the perils and pleasures of nostalgia, the ways in which

it can conceal any lied experiences that are meant to educate us, and lead us often to fall prey

to the same pitfalls from our very past.

So let's discuss this, Diana.

When you first brought up this topic, what actually led to you landing on this topic?

Because you sent it to me midweek and I was like, yes, this is a brilliant idea.

What occurred to you there?

You know what?

I kept thinking about how people I know, like, get back with their exes and they romanticize the relationship

after they've had a period of distance from them. And actually what made me think about it was,

you know, I was visiting another town that I had lived in after a really long time. And when I was

staying there, I was really nostalgic for the memories I had in the space when I lived there.

But then I realized I was like, oh, you can't ever really go back home. Like, it's never going to be that space. It's changed so much drastically even for me that even I don't recognize it anymore, you know? But like, I was still holding on to this like idea I had to fit when I lived there. And I was like, well, it's not this town anymore? And it's never been this town maybe, but it's not definitely not this town like anymore.

And I thought about how, like, when I was reflecting when I was leaving the space and I was, you know, going back to get my flight or whatever, I was, I was like, hmm, this is a weird

feeling because it's very painful to realize that you could never go back to that space and time, ever.

Even though you know it's not really helping you, but like you can never go back to that time.

And so people latch on to this idea of like, it was better.

And you see this a lot in media as well, right?

People are like, oh, the music of our time was better.

The fashion of our time was better. Like life was just better. I don't deny the fact that pre-internet probably life was, I mean, I don't know that it's necessarily better because I feel like people were just as mean and like people were bullying. Absolutely. This is bigoted. Again, it comes back to nostalgia. People romanticize a time when people were nicer and friendlier and happier and more understanding. And it's like, well, was that ever the situation? Or is it just that social media has made you a lot more aware of how people aren't like that? You know, this makes me think about this idea of like yearning. Even if it's yearning for something that no longer exists.

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