Melissa Urban: Worthy of Boundaries

Everything Happens with Kate Bowler

Kate Bowler

Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 5.1K Ratings

🗓️ 18 October 2022

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

Melissa Urban’s (CEO of The Whole30) experience of chronic illness forced her to accept her body’s limitations. You are going to love her practical advice for setting healthy boundaries as a way to protect our relationships, manage our limited capacity (especially for those of us navigating chronic pain or illness or caregiving), and remind ourselves of our inherent worth (regardless of how much you can do). In this episode, Kate and Melissa discuss: How boundaries help us better live inside our limitations The signs that a better boundary is needed How to manage the awkwardness of saying no How the Spoon Theory helps us understand limited capacity CW: sexual abuse, addiction *** Looking for the transcript or show notes? Click here. Find Kate on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter. Subscribe to our weekly email for blessings. No Cure for Being Human (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) is now available in PAPERBACK. Order your copy, today. Looking for some short spiritual reflections and blessings? Check out GOOD ENOUGH: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection. Available wherever books are sold. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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0:00.0	Sometimes we can be sold a story, a story about our worth.
0:10.0	That if we just give more, be more flexible, never say no.
0:15.8	Then we will be more lovable, more valuable, easier to be around.
0:22.5	Well, it turns out that's not the whole story.
0:27.6	Yes, we can be generous and compassionate.
0:31.7	Yes, empathy really is a superpower.
0:35.1	But no, being limitless is a myth.
0:39.6	It will not help you serve others well, or take your own needs seriously,
0:44.9	or recognize when there really is a better person for the job.
0:50.1	But how do you know when to say no?
0:53.2	How do you know the edges of what's possible in your already two full day?
1:00.6	My name is Kate Boller, and this is Everything Happens.
1:05.2	And it feels important to let you know right now that I am not good at this part.
1:10.6	As like a any gram two heart unsleeve person, don't tell me I can't help someone.
1:17.9	This, you will be able to tell, is a bit of a soft spot for me.
1:23.7	But when I got really sick or on days like today, when I'm dealing with just yet another wave of chronic pain,
1:32.4	my limits are kind of set for me.
1:36.3	I don't have that much of a choice.
1:39.2	And then I start to feel like a failure that I can't do everything that I used to do in a day,
1:44.8	or was even able to do yesterday.
1:48.4	Yet another reminder that, yes, I'm human, I'm finite, I'm not happy about it.
1:55.4	Does it sound like I'm happy about it?
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