Welcome to the weekend edition of the Daily Dad podcast, where on the weekends, we do a deeper dive

and how to get better at our most important job, being a parent. Sometimes in these episodes,

I talk to best-selling authors and elite performers and other guests, but lately I've also

been having conversations with my wife, Samantha, the co-parent of my two

boys. We do it over in the Daily Stoic studio here in Bastrop, Texas. She and I talk about things

that we're working on as parents, things that we're working on as people, and how we are supporting

each other, challenging each other, and like I said, trying to get

better at what we do. Guest or not, I hope you hear some ideas here that will help make you

a better parent. I was better for having the conversation. I hope you enjoy.

Hey, it's Ryan Holiday. Welcome to another episode of the Daily Dad podcast. I am trying to be calmer and more patient with my kids. I mean, I think all parents are trying to do that, but I just,

I just found I was just like hassling them about too much stuff and taking too much stuff seriously. And I found it was also kind of causing some imbalances in my relationship, like, because I was being the stickler, then my wife was getting to be more chill, and then my kids were gravitating towards her instead of me because I was being the person that I didn't want to be. I don't know. I was just, just taking too seriously. So I've been working on that. And it's funny. Back in October, Mel Robbins, the author of The Let Them Theory and the Five Second Rule, you've almost certainly seen her clips all over the Internet for many, many years. We did an episode of the Daily Stoak podcast. And after we wrapped, I gave her tour of the painted porch. You can see that on YouTube. But then we walked over to the Bastrop Opera House, which is just a few blocks away from the bookstore. It's this lovely old building from the 1800s. And we did a live event. There were about 150 people there, and I asked her some more questions on stage. And then the audience had some

questions. And as you can imagine, some of the questions I had had to do with parenting because

the let them theory, which is just like, hey, you control you, not them, and them being

random strangers, your own parents, your friend group, you know, random people on social media.

And of course, your kids, you don't control them as much as you think you would like to or deserve to or can't.

And you've got to be able to let people do their own thing, let them make their own mistakes.

So the let them theory certainly applies to parenting.

And I had a couple questions about that.

And the folks in the audience had a couple questions about that. And that's what I wanted to bring you today. You can listen to the full episode with Mel Robbins on the Daily Soak podcast. I'll link to that. You can watch the video on the Daily Soak YouTube channel. I'll link to both of those in the show notes for you to check out. Again, thanks to Mel for coming out to Bastrop. I hope you enjoy this episode.

Let's get into it. in the show notes for you to check out. Again, thanks to Mel for coming out to Bastrop. I hope you

enjoy this episode. Let's get into it.

So we had a unusual little first world problem in our family. We built a little house down on the Gulf Coast,

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