Megan Sherer: Being Single: An Intentional Experiment

Sounds True: Insights at the Edge

Tami Simon

Religion, Religion & Spirituality

4.6 • 1.8K Ratings

🗓️ 6 May 2025

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever found yourself in an intimate relationship that seemed great at first but quickly devolved into something extremely dissatisfying? Maybe you ignored the red flags you saw on that first date or told yourself it’s still better than being alone. Why do we do this to ourselves? How can we break the pattern? In this episode of Insights at the Edge, join Tami Simon in conversation with coach and somatic therapist Megan Sherer, sharing empowering teachings and approaches contained in the new book Choose Your Self: How to Embrace Being Single, Heal Core Wounds, and Build a Life You Love.

Give a listen as Tami and Megan discuss: becoming one’s own closest friend; working with shame; overcoming our fear of loneliness; feeling your feelings (instead of intellectualizing); the inherent difficulty of the path of healing and growth; when self-love is really hard; emotional availability; separating your self-worth from your relationship status; trust in life; aligning your values and your choices; the difference between a body and a soul; creativity and purpose; somatic therapy, trauma work, and the human nervous system; the concept of “situationships”; grace in times of transition; establishing healthy boundaries; and more.

Note: This episode originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.

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0:00.0	If you're dating emotionally unavailable people, there's some degree of emotional unavailability
0:04.6	in you too. Like, our relationships are our best mirrors, and every single person I've been
0:11.3	interested in is emotionally unavailable, well, I'm the common denominator there. So I keep choosing
0:17.9	them for some reason. Why is that?
0:31.2	In this episode of Insights at the Edge, my guest is Megan Scherer. Megan is a special and talented young person. She's just 34 years old. She's so accomplished, a holistic therapist and a somatic healer who specializes
0:42.1	in love, self-worth, and relationships. She's also a writer, a speaker, and a host of the
0:50.7	well-then podcast. With Sounds True, Megan Sherer's written a new book, and she's created
0:57.7	an audio book. It's called Choose Yourself, How to Embrace Being Single, Heal Core Wounds,
1:05.8	and Build a Life You Love. Megan, welcome. Thank you so much for having me, Tammy. So happy to be here.
1:13.6	Here, Megan, right at the start, can you tell us a little bit about how this intentional experiment
1:20.3	of being single, which is really what forms the core of the writing underneath your new book,
1:27.2	choose yourself, How this experiment
1:30.1	came into being, and it went on for four years focusing, as you describe it, on choosing yourself.
1:38.9	How did you start this experiment? And why? It started, I think, as most big decisions or healing journeys do. It started
1:48.0	with a lot of pain in my life, if I'm being honest. I experienced a pretty rude awakening in my 20s
1:55.7	that came in the form of a string of back-to-back bad relationships where honestly I kept looking for love to
2:03.6	save me. I romanticized the idea of love being the thing that would take all of my pain away
2:09.9	and make all my problems go away if I could just get that one person to choose me. And instead,
2:17.2	I kept finding myself in relationships
2:18.9	where the pain was being caused by my pursuit of this person or my pursuit of trying to make
2:26.0	the relationship work. And I felt like a failure. It felt like a personal failure that I kept
2:32.4	experiencing all this pain and all this heartbreak. And that's what really
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