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Welcome back to I do part two.

It's one of your host, Jenny Garth, jumping in today.

I'm intrigued by the conversation I'm going to have today.

Sometimes when people break up or divorce, it's complicated.

And sometimes there's a third person involved.

My guest today is an author, a speaker, and a teacher known for her books.

Choose wonder over worry and the answers are within you.

Her new memoir, Lovable, is out now and I can't wait to talk to her about love, marriage,

relationships, divine intervention,

shame, guilt, healing, oh, all the things, so much, so much. So please welcome Amber Ray to the podcast.

Hello. Hey, Amber. So, so exciting. You have a new book. The title of your new memoir is

lovable, and that is a word that carries so much.

So let's just start with this question. Have you always felt like you were lovable?

I have not always felt lovable, but what's interesting is that I don't know if I would

necessarily define it that way. I wouldn't have thought, oh, I don't know if I'm lovable.

It was for me, kind of this unconscious story that was driving so much of my behavior and

motivation without me even realizing it. I didn't realize that I was trying to accomplish all

these things and I had this ambition in my career because I felt unworthy of love.

I didn't realize that I was going after a particular kind of unhealthy relationship because I

didn't feel lovable. And I thought if I could convince them that I was worthy of love,

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