Hi everybody, welcome to Your Move, where we help you make better decisions and live with fewer regrets.

I'm Andy Stanley, and I'll be your guide.

Now, do you know any mean people?

Have you ever tried to get even with someone who's mean only to discover you're being mean?

You're becoming just like someone you don't even like.

Well, there is a better way, and that's what we're talking about today, right here on your move.

We are in part two of the series entitled Mean People and specifically what to do about them.

Mean people and what to do about them.

And just so you know, I realize that you have been mean. Perhaps somebody is going to hear or watch this message. I hope not

and you'll come to mind. I hope that's not the case. We've all had seasons in our lives when we've

been the mean people. And mostly when we get together, we're talking about how to live a life in such a way that we're not the mean people.

So we usually focus on how to become better people,

but in this series, we're talking specifically about how to respond to

or what to do about the mean people in our lives.

Not just the folks who bug us.

We're all of people who bug us.

Specifically, these are the mean people. These are the

people who are deceptive. They're controlling. They're just unkind. They're unpredictable. They're

manipulative. To be specific, I'm not talking about somebody who's physically or sexually abusive.

That's different. That's illegal. This is just the mean people. And it's important to talk about this, and it's important to think through how we're going to respond, because if we don't have a plan, if we're not prepared, if we're not proactive, well, you know what happens. What happens to the mean people in our lives? The mean people in our lives, they actually gain a measure of control

over our lives. And before we know it, we are being mean right back, even if we don't mean to.

In fact, it's almost as if we have no choice because, and you know this, mean can make you mean.

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