Hi, guys. Welcome back to Preview Alliance podcast. I've got your super go-to maternal mental health

therapist, Ms. Whitney with us, and we're going to get you ready for the holidays.

That's right, friends. Let's get prepared.

You're probably like, Sarah, I'm going to mute you right now because it's November.

But listen, we have to work ahead and be proactive.

And the title of our episode, Whitney, is me, a people pleaser.

Never.

Not me.

Not us.

Not us.

But tell us, because people may hear that, right?

They may be like, I'm not a people pleaser, but what really is a people pleaser?

So people pleasing, there's so many roots to it, but often people end up

people pleasing because they want to avoid conflict. Maybe they don't really know how to articulate

themselves in conflict. Maybe they don't know how to set a boundary. Maybe they truly don't know

when they're at capacity for something,

so they take things on thinking that's what they're supposed to do, but then they end up drowning

in all of these projects or tasks or what have you. I tell my people pleasing clients often,

when you people please, you are choosing which conflict. So if you're going to people please,

a situation, you are avoiding external conflict, but creating internal conflict.

Oh. Yeah. So when we learn how to set a boundary and say no to fill in the blank,

whatever it might be, it could create an external

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