Maybe They Don’t Need a Comparison, They Need Safety | After Hours With Amanda Ep. 66
After Hours With Amanda
After Hours With Amanda
5.0 • 697 Ratings
🗓️ 14 November 2025
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, I’m talking about health anxiety, holiday pressure, missed opportunities, Disney dreams, and the measuring stick we sometimes use without realizing it. You know, the one that says, “I wish homework was my biggest problem,” or turns someone else’s hard day into a comparison contest.
This one is about parenting tiny humans, listening without keeping score, validating feelings, and remembering that someone else’s hard thing is still hard, even if yours looks bigger from the outside.
I am not here as an expert. I am here as a mom and human still learning right alongside you.
00:00 The Sweatshirt I’m Afraid to Stain
00:47 When Certain Situations Make Anxiety Louder
02:25 Health PTSD, Grief, and Naming What’s Scary
04:15 Selling Sunset, Kids Meals, and Life Catch Up
05:26 Disney Plans, TikTok Live, and Figuring It Out
06:45 Disney Destiny and Dreaming About a Cruise
08:50 Disney Studios, Big Goals, and Getting Sick
10:56 Canceling a Disney World Invite
12:04 Give Yourself Five Minutes to Be Disappointed
13:28 Thank God That Wasn’t Mine
15:39 Holiday Pressure and Joyful Choices
17:45 Tiny Queens, Guests, and Wanting to Be a Mom
19:06 Feeling Like You’re Not Doing Enough
23:19 The Measuring Stick We Use With Kids
26:17 Why Kids’ Problems Are Still Real Problems
28:08 Meltdowns, Distress, and Missing Tools
30:08 Listening Without Making It About Me
32:56 How Keeping Score Shuts Down Communication
35:41 Support Each Other Instead of Competing
37:06 The Goal for More Consistent Episodes
39:15 Adam, Belonging, and Making People Feel Seen
40:20 Tiny Humans, Inner Children, and Repair
42:51 You Cannot Miss What Is Planned for You
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| 0:00.0 | Hi and welcome back. I'm so excited to be with you. Look at my sweatshirt. I paid full price. I paid full |
| 0:07.7 | price for this. It's okay though. It's okay. We're going to wear it forever. The fear that I have of it |
| 0:13.2 | getting stained though, I honestly, I'm like at this point, should we just throw paint on it to get it over it? |
| 0:20.3 | Like just to get over |
| 0:21.2 | the hump of like a stain. Um, because the other day I was wearing it and then I switched and |
| 0:25.9 | London looked at me and she's like, you're never going to wear that mom. I was like, why? And she's like, because you're afraid of a stain. And I was like, because it's so beautiful. Like, I just don't want anything. It's like stretchy at the bottom. It's so cozy inside. But I've got a lot to |
| 0:37.9 | catch you up on first off |
| 0:38.9 | can we just completely transparent look me in the eye have you been struggling lately |
| 0:44.5 | when i tell you and i've been saying this instead okay not my anxiety certain situations |
| 0:52.5 | have been making my anxiety fill higher to the point where I think |
| 0:57.1 | about them. I'm like, literally never, literally has never happened to me. But we have some little |
| 1:07.6 | mantras we've been doing and we've been reminding ourselves that someone, I got really good advice and they said, don't say my anxiety, my anxiety. |
| 1:16.2 | Name what it is. |
| 1:18.2 | And it's funny because I always tell the tiny queens this. |
| 1:21.1 | I'm like, what is it you're upset about or worried about or scared about? |
| 1:23.8 | Like, name that. |
| 1:25.0 | Don't give it this like random power floating in space. |
| 1:28.2 | Name what it is. What is giving you anxiety? The list for me, though, is getting a scosh long of just |
| 1:36.1 | like random things. But I think it's because, well, this chair is creaky. Do you hear that? |
| 1:41.6 | I think it's just because recently I had had some weird, |
| 1:45.7 | like nausea bouts like I did back in February. I don't remember if you remember that. And this |
| 1:51.6 | month is different. I'm on a new ant acid. I'm taking really good multivitamins. I'm doing some other |
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