Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa A. Romano.

I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness

rather than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope

as you spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

So today we're going to be talking about mature loneliness.

We've all experienced loneliness.

And it's really amazing when you think that you can be alone and not feel lonely.

I know that on my road to codependent recovery, I realize that many of my

faulty behaviors were tied to this bone- aching loneliness, this fear of being not only alone, but feeling

lonely. I liken it to being a three-year-old child on the Brooklyn Bridge,

traffic coming both ways, and I have no idea where my parents are. I feel so vulnerable and so

afraid and terrified, overwhelmed, hopeless, and powerless, impending doom. That's what loneliness feels like.

It feels like you're falling backwards into an abyss. It's dark. It's cold. And you're going

backwards. You're free falling. And you're trying to grab for a wall to hold on to but there's nothing that's

what loneliness toxic loneliness feels like and this is what drives a lot of our codependent

behaviors this is what drives a lot of our fear of abandonment this is what drives our compulsion to become love addicts,

to fawn, to acquiesce, to subjugate ourselves to others, to forego our own emotional needs

for the sake of a relationship, to stay in toxic relationships, because staying in a relationship allows us to avoid that free falling

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