I have heard from many different people that if a relationship is right it should be easy.

What concerns me about the nature of that phrase is that it seems very broad.

Are you struggling with the decision of whether to stay or go in your love life right now?

Maybe you're worried about whether you should continue dating someone who's already shown you some things

you're not quite sure about or maybe you're at the end of a relationship and wondering whether to leave

or stay in it. You could even be after a relationship where you've had a break up and you're

wondering whether you should go back or continue forward and meet someone new. There are three questions

I want you to ask yourself to help determine whether you should stay or go in the situation you're in.

Let's get into it.

I had someone come to me recently and say something interesting, slightly painful and something that

well was slightly painful because it also reflected a fear I have. This person was a fan,

big fan of all of my work but she said I sometimes think if I had followed all of the advice

I may never have said yes to giving things ago with my partner. I have felt like that at times

that the danger is that it's very easy the easiest position in the world to take when dispensing advice

is leave. If a woman goes to her friend and says a guy did this and her friend says

oh leave don't go on another date with him or a guy says oh she did that ditch her.

We imagine that friend to be someone who's wounded don't we? We imagine that friend themselves to be

someone who's either bitter or defensive or all too willing to write people off quickly and I

sometimes worry that in my advice over the years I've made too many people write people off too

quickly based on some perceived red flag. The truth is we love hearing about red flags.

There's a reason that red flag videos do so well on YouTube is because there's something gratifying

about it isn't there. There's something about dating someone and seeing something that's a bad

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