When I say how do I feel about this person, I go, oh my God, they're so attractive, they're so charismatic, they're so sexy, they have this, they have that.

We talk about all of the wonderful things we see in that person.

But that person can make you miserable. Do you think online dating is good or bad?

I mean you can't deny how many people have, you know, are together now because that existed, right?

There's something about, there's, there is something amazing about the fact that I could meet someone who goes to a different coffee shop than I do.

You know, that's, we have an, we have a problem,

I forget what the term in economics is,

but the problem of, what's the word,

when it's lack of information, you, you, when this, when this person and this person could be great together, but they're never crossing paths.

There is something really sad about that. And what online dating does is it says, you're going to get to meet someone who doesn't go to your coffee shop.

Amazing.

But...

Now everybody's like, hmm.

It's also a big problem in the same way that you know Instagram or

TikTok or any of these things are a big problem for our ability to be present to enjoy

things to focus on anything is you're you're this, once you're on online dating, you are in the dopamine

machine and you're either getting addicted to it yourself or you're not, you're dealing with

other people who are addicted to it.

And it's very hard to be mindful.

In order to know someone's good for you, you have to be with them.

You have to really like sit and be present with them and get to know them.

That's really hard when your phone's blown up with four more matches that you check

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