Until you start chasing the right things, that chasing the wrong things will always loop you back to where you start. Why do you think...

I'm going to speak for women, because this is a lot of...

You coach a lot of women.

Why do you think when there's a very reasonable or available man

that meets the standards of a woman in front of them, that they're on a date with or they're

dating, why is it sometimes that women sabotage that potential really good relationship

that is right in front of them.

If they meet a good guy? They meet a good guy. They've gone on some date. There's no red flags. There's no ick. And there's like, here's a guy. He's got a job. He's kind. He's like, he's groomed. He's healthy. He's, you know, he can have some funny. He's got, you know, maybe he's not superman but he's got a good good package right why do literally and spiritually why do women sabotage when there's a good man in

front of them the question can be applied equally across the genders.

And I know I've sabotaged potentially wonderful relationships before.

Almost did it with the relationship that, you know,

turned out to be my marriage. I almost, like, screwed

that up. And, and we have to look at what's... Why do you think you almost screwed it up?

We get into these patterns where we chase the wrong things. I can't take credit for that phrase.

My wife Audrey loves that phrase,

and I got addicted to it too,

because it's such a great phrase.

This idea that if you chase the wrong things,

it might be fun sometimes.

But until you start chasing the right things, that chasing the wrong things will

always loop you back to where you started. We chase these things that feel off, because it's

what we know, and it feels familiar, and it's, you know, you're texting and it's you know you're texting me back

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