Not being attractive enough, not being manly enough, not being successful enough.

We can feel insecure about those things, but then on top of that we end up feeling insecure about being insecure.

Hey everybody, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life podcast. I am excited to share this clip with you today.

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This morning I put up a post on Facebook and Instagram asking men specifically what's an insecurity

you have in early dating and the responses were so beautiful and so vulnerable and so real

that I felt compelled to make a video about it. Is she even into me? Wondering how I compared to

the competition and her previous boyfriend's? Will she be able to understand the emotions or the

side of me that people don't usually see or I don't normally let out? That I'm not good enough,

says Dave, but interesting enough to be on the short list. Financial expectations,

another person says, can I provide enough? Someone else says not being man enough,

their past relationships, getting friendzoned. Am I too boring? Will I get found out? Am I enough

and can I please her? Is she really interested in me? Third day ideas. Someone says,

that one really made me laugh out loud when I read it because it's really true. First date,

drink, second date, movie, third date. As a guy you get to a point where you think, is there anything

else in the world to do? That when we get past all the initial flirting and banter she won't

like what's left. Another theme is that if I show my interest they will lose theirs. There was a

comment here from Ryan who said, texting anxiety is the biggest one for me. Purposefully spreading

out response times to not come across as too available in order to keep her interest. If it comes

again, a game I don't want to play but am forced to play. If I respond too quick, the pattern has been

that she loses interest because the chase is over and she'll spend more time chasing another guy

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