And that part of you that is mad and upset feels so overlooked by that response.

So he just gets to go off and be fine and I'm supposed to just go, okay, wish him the

best, keep moving forward.

This clip is taken from my love life club, a private session I did for my members,

where one of my members on this session asked me a question about how to move on from a

particularly painful breakup. And she was wondering, how do I get over the anger that I feel

towards this person for the way that I've been mistreated in this relationship?

Anger can be an incredibly corrosive thing and we can hold on to it for a long time.

And people come along and they give us this aphoristic advice like, you know, you just have to

keep going. Living well is the best revenge. And some part of us feels like we're not acknowledging

what this person has done. They're really just going to go off and get away with the way they

treated me, with everything they did with the betrayals. And I just have to live well as the

best revenge. That's fairness. Have you felt angry like this? Is there some part of you that feels

like there is this terrible inequity in the way that you have had to part ways with someone

in a relationship? And it's just not fair what happened to you. This clip would normally be

reserved only for my members. It's a small piece of a much longer session. But I know it's going

to help you today if you resonate with this and stay till the end because I have something to tell

you about. Julia says how to forgive and let go after a painful breakup after a rather ugly

end to a 15 year relationship with two great kids. I'm wondering how to let go of resentment and

anger. Ultimately, I know I have to forgive to let go of those wishes of revenge and the ugly

thoughts that come with the fact of being hurt. But in this stage, only to hear that the best

thing would be to wish him well just provokes a knot in my belly. How to make small practical

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