Could it be this and could it be that? I just don't know. I'm so confused. Matt, it's really hard when you just don't get an

explanation and when you're so confused, then you can't let go. Yes, you can.

Hey, everybody. It's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life podcast. So happy you're here. And I think you're really going to love this episode today.

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So we recently did an episode on the podcast, episode one eight one, the title of which was how to deal with the pain of not getting closure.

And there was someone who emailed a reply to this podcast. She said, Hi, I just wanted to say that I really did enjoy your last podcast. I adore all of you guys.

The banter you have is awesome. And I do agree with everything you said, however, I have a feeling you missed out on one reason why it's so important to get closure.

I am now actually trying to deal with that pain of not getting closure. But the reason why I want to get closure, and I believe I wouldn't be alone in this,

is not necessarily to get any constructive criticism that I can improve. It's neither because I can't help but scratch the wound.

Why I need it is because this guy simply ghosted me out of nowhere. He reads my Facebook texts, but stopped responding to them.

We only met two months ago and have already been through some misunderstandings, but we didn't recently argue or anything.

So now I find myself left with this uncertainty over whether it's only temporary, like he's just struggling and needs to think about our situation.

Or we're done for good. I simply want to get out of this limbo, get this level of certainty to close that chapter and move on.

Thank you and can't wait for the next episode.

Well, and I'm going to call this person name. I'm going to go with Deborah. It's funny because whenever I read a message like this, I read certain contradictions.

On one hand, Deborah says, I'm not simply thinking about this to scratch a wound. I'm just trying to get certainty.

But then when I hear this person say, I'm struggling because I have this uncertainty.

Are they just struggling with the situation and thinking about it and they don't know what to say?

Or is it actually over? That kind of rumination is a way of scratching the wound.

It's a way of continuing to invest in the situation.

Now, let's rewind for a moment because ghosting itself is incredibly painful. It's incredibly painful because it can make us feel worthless.

It can make us feel like we're not even worthy of an explanation.

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