(Matt Monday): For Anyone Who Feels Rejected or Invisible in Dating

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 19 June 2023

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

Dating doesn’t feel magical and fun when nothing seems to be going our way.

Sometimes it feels as though love and attention come easy to everybody else, meanwhile, for us, dating feels like a string of painful rejections or endless cycles of feeling used and overlooked.

The reality is that some people simply have an easier time in dating than others. So if you are someone who doesn’t identify with getting a lot of attention or having much luck, how can you combat the insidious feeling of panic that it simply won’t happen for you?

If you relate to this, today’s new episode will provide a much-needed boost. It will help you overcome the pain of frequent rejection and reframe the situation you’re in so you can feel hopeful again.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	You're not supposed to be for everyone.
0:01.7	If you're for most people, you're doing something wrong.
0:05.3	You're chameleonizing yourself, people pleasing,
0:08.2	being an inauthentic version of you.
0:10.5	How do we continue with the search for love when it feels like it's so fruitless for us?
0:37.5	When we feel invisible, when we feel like we keep going on dates that don't go anywhere,
0:42.0	maybe even dates with initial promise where it felt like someone liked us, but then they
0:47.0	never spoke to us again afterwards.
0:49.2	It never materialized into another date.
0:51.8	Rejection hurts.
0:52.8	When we get too many rejections, it starts to make us want to quit altogether because
0:57.8	we feel hopeless.
0:59.1	We think what's the point.
1:00.5	When each new rejection just reiterates and reinforces this belief that we're not good
1:08.1	enough, that we're not desirable, that we're not worthy.
1:12.8	When we feel that way, we will insert whatever is our biggest insecurity into that.
1:19.6	It's because of my age, it's because I'm not attractive enough.
1:23.9	It's because I'm not smart enough.
1:26.3	It's because I'm not successful enough.
1:29.2	It's because of my body.
1:30.8	We all have our insecurity that rejection attaches itself onto.
1:37.2	But the painful part is the rejection.
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