Do you know one of the things that I value most in my life?

Peace. All of the little ways that I get to construct this world of calm and equanimity

that makes me feel relaxed. But when people are dating, it's really hard to maintain this, because there are so many

things that rob us of our peace when we are looking for love. One of those things is when we go on a

date with someone, we like them. It seems as if it might be going well, and then they fade. Maybe they stop texting us back as much.

Maybe they stop asking us out, even if they do text us back. Whatever is the case, it becomes

clear that this person that we had hopes for has lost interest.

Now, some of the time, maybe even a lot of the time, that has everything to do with them

and not with us.

But occasionally, it's worth asking the question, is there anything I might be doing

that could be pushing someone away?

I'm Matthew Hussey, and today we are going to be

talking about the five behaviors that can push someone away without us realizing it and stop it

from ever reaching its full potential. Number one, we run the risk of pushing people away when we overshare.

Oversharing is incredibly common.

And by definition, oversharing happens at a time when the amount of information we've given someone is inorganic

to our relationship with them at that point. In other words, when we say things

to someone who is essentially a perfect stranger that they shouldn't be privy to yet. Now,

what does this actually look like? Well, it can look like talking about our insecurities very early in the process.

You know, I just hate when people ask me about my height or talk about my height because I've

never liked my height. I'm, you know, I've always felt like I'm too tall or I've always felt

like I'm too short. That's oversharing about an insecurity we have at a time when someone

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