I have a really important concept today, especially for anyone who is struggling to move on from somebody.

If there is an ex that you have not been able to get out of your mind,

if there is someone you keep comparing people to in your life anytime you meet someone new,

this video is for you. Maybe you keep trying to find someone better than them, but it's not working, and it feels like

you compare everyone to your ex, and no one feels good enough, and it never feels the same way as

you did with them. I'm talking about that person that was exciting, the person you had chemistry

with, the person you fell head over heels for, but who ultimately said,

I don't want to be with you. There are four things I want to say about this that I promise

you are going to leave you feeling better by the end of this video. So first, I want to talk

about the concept of the vacation hotel. The person we fell in love with is like the vacation hotel. For argument's sake,

let's talk about it as a really top-notch hotel. This might be giving them too much credit, by the way,

but let's make it a really amazing hotel like the four seasons. Imagine for a moment that the person

that it felt amazing within the past, that it felt so exciting with, where you had incredible chemistry, where you felt like, oh my God, if I could be with this person forever, I would live in this constant state of euphoria and relationship, happiness. This would be everything I need in life. You're on vacation, you're having the best time, you're like, I don't want to leave.

I'm not ready to go home. But then we leave and we go back to our actual lives. The people that

can't commit to us or the people that only commit to us for a period of time and then tell us

that for whatever reason they don't want to be with us,

they are that amazing hotel. They're like a place that we visited that was this amazing, gorgeous, romantic vacation.

But we can't act like the Four Seasons was where we were supposed to live. In order for someone to become

our home, the place we live every single day, they have to choose us. So if you're struggling

to move on from someone and you keep comparing new people that you date to the person you felt

extraordinary within the past,

remember, that person showed themselves to be a vacation hotel.

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