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I know that many of you, perhaps most of you, come to me for love life advice, but if I were to zoom out, one of the skill sets I am most proud I have learned in my life is the ability to interact well with other people.

The ability to navigate relationships, the ability to make an impact when I go into a room or when I step up on stage or when I make a video, this is a skill set that has been valuable to me in every aspect of my life is the most transferable skill set I've ever learned, whether it's being able to build a company, growing an online audience, making videos, being on stage, or meeting and interacting with a person at an engagement party that I went to who went on to become the love of my life, my fiance.

This skill set, I believe, is one that I could not have got by without. So I wanted to narrow it down to 14 things. So here we go. Number one, you can change.

I once asked my mom, how do you know who you are, mom, funny question to ask my mom, but we were on a retreat at the time, and I was working on content about how to figure out who we are, and I said, how do you know who you are, she said, why know who I am because of what I've done and what I'm comfortable with.

And I said, that's exactly right. And in a sense, what that is, is it's looking in the rearview mirror, is looking at who we've been so far, is not looking at who we could be or how we might evolve.

We all know that we have evolved in interesting ways in our life. We've come to enjoy things we never thought we would enjoy. We've adopted new parts of our own identity that we didn't have once upon a time.

When you think of your own personal impact and you immediately put limitations on what you're capable of, I want you to start from a place of saying, I can change.

I know that because there are areas of my life where I've already changed. There are skills I've already brought on that I never used to have. There are ways I've already grown in confidence. There are people skills I've learned. And that means that I'm not at the end of that journey.

There's way further to go in terms of the impact that I can make in the world and in my world. And the important thing with that point is this particular phrase, don't focus on finding yourself, get to work on creating yourself.

The second point I want to make about impact is energy. People who have impact have a certain level of energy. Energy is different. I've spent my life public speaking and working with all different kinds of people in their ability to project.

And everyone's version of projection is a little different. Some people walk into a room and their life and soul loud is person in the room.

Other people are much more quiet and reserved. Now, I do not fit into the loudest person in the room archetype. I'm not life and soul of the party. But I have my own version of energy.

And you on your best day have your own version of energy too. Your version of energy can be your best possible open and warm expression when you're feeling confident.

It could be the way you move your body, the way you gesture. It could be a glint in your eye when you're talking about something that you're truly passionate about.

But one of the things you'll notice about people who have impact is there is an energy to these people. And people who don't have impact, people who struggle to hold your attention or to be compelling in life, missing that things. Not that they're not loud.

You can be quiet and have a certain energy that's very compelling. You could be the person who doesn't say many words but when you speak everyone listens. You know that person at the dinner table?

There's someone at the dinner table that when they speak, no one listens because they just speak the whole time. There's certain people that when they speak, everyone's tuned in.

I remember doing a show with my dear friend Dr. Ruth. And this is a woman who, when I met her, she was in her 90s.

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