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Subject married and celibate.

Dear Stephen Shirley, for the past 23 years I've been married to the nicest guy in the world, and I have always tried to be the perfect

wife and mother. In the beginning of our marriage, our sex life was perfect, but over the past

seven years, things have drastically changed. We had sex maybe eight times in the whole year.

I counted them.

I don't think he's cheating because all he does is go to work and come home.

If he goes out, we go out as a family. I just don't think that he is interested in sex at all.

He is completely complacent, and I've stopped initiating sex because I get tired of him telling me to move all the time.

Move.

He comes to bed to watch TV, and that's how he falls asleep each night.

When I told him that I need sex regularly, he told me that sex should not be

everything in a marriage. That shocked me and hurt me to the core, because I'm only 45 years old,

and sex is everything to me. It made me feel inadequate and if he's tired of me, and as if he's

tired of me. How does he expect to just stop

having sex with his wife and it will be okay? And nothing has changed with me physically.

With me, I am the same size I was when we got married and I have aged well. I can fight it in my

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