Marriage: The Power of Serving Without Being Asked

The Family Discipleship Podcast

Religion & Spirituality, Religion, Christianity, Parenting, Kids & Family

5.0 • 597 Ratings

🗓️ 31 March 2025

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

Adam Griffin and Chelsea Griffin have a conversation about how to serve your spouse well.Questions Covered in This Episode:

What comes to mind when you hear the phrase, “I wish you just did it without being asked”?
Why do you think it makes a difference to do something to serve your spouse without them asking you to do it?
How does that look like Jesus?
What does the Ant in the Proverbs have to do with this?
Why don’t we serve like this all the time?
What are some simple, everyday ways to surprise your spouse with kindness?
What role does attentiveness play in serving our spouse well?
What does the Bible say about giving without expecting something in return?
What if one spouse feels like they are always serving but not receiving the same in return?

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Proverbs 6:6-11, Hebrews 11:6, Matthew 6:4, Acts 20:35, Romans 12:10

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Family Discipleship Podcast, a podcast of Training the Church.
0:13.0	This is Adam Griffin, and sadly, Cassie Bryant can't be with us today, but I am here with my
0:18.2	incredible, brilliant, fantastic, beautiful, hilarious wife. Mrs. Chelsea Griffin. Chelsea, how are you? I'm good, but when you build me up like that, then it's hard to deliver. Like, I just raise the expectations too high. Yeah, I need you to minimize my good qualities. And then people will be like, oh, she's better than he said. Oh, what would you like me? Like, what would be a great? This is my wife. She is average and she's here because I asked her to be. And if she brings something to table, that would be great. Something like that. Maybe this is my ex-girlfriend, now my first wife. My first wife. This is my first wife, Chelsea. And I hope that she has something worth saying today. Yeah. Something like that? Yes. Yes. That's not great. That sounds insulting. Sounds like I'm not only not building you up. I'm tearing you down. Okay, fine. I don't want to do that. Fine. Do it your way. Okay, fine. Fine. I'm going to do it my way. You do, you, I'm the one.
1:12.7	Failed again. Chelsea, here's an opening question for you. Okay. What's something that delights you, but you hate to ask for it? Something that brings you delight, but it's better if you don't have to ask. I don't always need that much time alone, but anytime a person
1:28.3	asked for time alone, I think the implication is insulting, right? Can I be away from you for a minute?
1:34.3	Right. Yeah. Like to say that I would be really blessed by a certain amount of time alone, that sounds
1:40.8	rude. But if somebody like your husband were to shape a day and say, hey, I just wanted you to be
1:46.2	able to get away if you had to, I'll take care of this.
1:48.7	So if you want to go hit some golf balls, feel free.
1:51.2	Yeah.
1:51.5	Yeah, that's nice.
1:52.7	That's super nice.
1:53.4	That would bless you.
1:54.2	Yeah.
1:54.4	But especially for like women, you know, if you say like you want time away from your kids or
2:00.2	something, then you feel like a monster.
2:03.3	And, you know, there's like a self-condemming voice right away of like, what a bad mom?
2:07.5	Who would say that?
2:08.6	When it's not that we don't want the children or husband, it's just that sometimes some quiet or, yeah, doing something we enjoy by ourselves can be nice.
2:18.6	But don't you feel like we found better language for that more recently? Yeah. Instead of saying, hey, I would really like some time away from my family. We don't say it like that. Yeah. What do you say? Can I please, I would really enjoy some. I need Chelsea time. I need some Chelsea time. Yeah. And what does Chelsea do with Chelsea time? You go to the gym.
2:34.1	Yeah.
2:34.6	I drink coffee.
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