Marital Conflict and Gottman's Four Horsemen (2018 Rerun)
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 26 March 2022
⏱️ 36 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, deserving listeners. |
| 0:08.4 | I got a call recently from a podcast host or a radio show host who wanted to talk with |
| 0:15.7 | me about marital conflict, conflict and couples and the Gotman for Horseman. |
| 0:22.8 | And so they sent me the audio just now and so I thought I would just play that for you |
| 0:28.4 | for your enjoyment. |
| 0:30.9 | So let's get to that. |
| 0:32.5 | The person who interviewed me, her name is Leslie Doris. |
| 0:38.9 | And her show is called Happily Ever After is just the beginning. |
| 0:43.6 | So let's go to that right now. |
| 0:44.9 | You know, as I've said many times before, most relationships don't end with a bang. |
| 0:51.2 | They're actually victims of what I call death by a thousand cuts. |
| 0:56.8 | Another analogy that I also use is the frog in the boiling water. |
| 1:00.6 | That if you throw a frog into a pot of boiling water, the theory is it will jump out immediately. |
| 1:06.4 | But if you put it into a cooler water and gradually raise the temperature, the frog isn't |
| 1:12.1 | even aware of the change and it'll eventually die. |
| 1:15.9 | And this is actually what really happens in relationships. |
| 1:19.1 | That things start to go a little off track and we don't really notice until finally they're |
| 1:25.1 | so off track that somebody just says done. |
| 1:28.2 | So the question becomes, what signs of stress are actually happening in your relationship |
| 1:35.6 | that you might not be aware of? |
| 1:38.2 | And what toll is this incremental negative change taking on it? |
| 1:43.6 | And better yet, is there anything you can do about it? |
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