I think it's destructive for everybody to orient to a form of connection in a way where

you're like, this isn't a priority, this should always be positive and light.

This isn't a responsibility.

It's not a commitment like just our scripts for friendship are so narrow and so like flimsy

and I say in the book like, here we are investing less in our friendship spending less time

with them, not having formal ceremony with them, affirming them less.

And then we assume that friendship is inferior because something inherent to friendship.

But if we look at our behaviors and how we treat friends compared to other relationships,

any relationship that has like that little investment in it is not going to be, you know,

as great or as closer as intimate.

And so I think I'm trying to push people to be more critical and think, oh, all these

things I do for my family or for my romantic partner, I could also experience that with

a friend, like even asexual communities have really been the pioneers in getting us

to look at the possibility of friends as life partners.

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