There's a swell happening where I think a lot of people are now sick of the swipe culture

and there's this thing called self-partnerd where people are like, you know what, I'm going

to work on myself and I think this is what's going to happen.

I'm hoping it's what happens to get people to kind of look inward and go on their own

self-sign.

So tell me, I hope that people are doing that because this whole journey of like, it's

sort of similar to what you were saying about, we feel like something's broken if we're

not dating.

So like, well, it's almost like our duty on the planet is to keep dating, keep having

sex, but saying, giving people permission, it's okay to slow down and say, what do I actually

want?

Who am I without a relationship?

I think our duty is to be the best version of ourselves as possible.

And I think the ripple of that is sex and all the great things that happened with sharing

your life with someone else, but I don't think that's the sun we revolve around.

I think we need to kind of take the power back and go after our dreams and do what we feel

is honest to us.

And then if we happen to meet a partner, now we're coming in as a whole person instead

of trying to fill holes.

Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily.

I'm Dr. Emily and on today's show, I'm joined by the Angry Therapist John Kim to talk about

his book I used to be a miserable fuck, as well as the true way to man up.

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