I'm Kevin Miller. This is the What Drives You podcast where I've investigated over 270 experts in the human potential movement.

I hunt for the academics and therapists and researchers who you may have never heard of as they're

mostly busy teaching classes counseling patients and doing research and labs. So I

bring their insights to you here, insights to better understand and be fully you, to move from performance to potential,

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In this episode, manly emotionlessness is for cowards and how to manage and not suppress.

Don't be controlled by your emotions. I mean think about that statement.

It says to not be controlled by our emotions.

As a culture and specifically with men over the span of history, I believe we've misinterpreted that in a couple ways.

One, don't show your emotions and let's go further and label it

manly and masculine and strong to just not have any emotions.

So we disdain showing emotions and being emotional.

And women who we've deemed are more emotional, we've used their propensity to express emotions as a weakness, another poor interpretation that hurt us all.

I spent most of my life validating myself for being calm under pressure.

There are some acute moments of tragedy where maybe this helped, it did.

Then there's the other 99% of the time where I now look back and see what a coward I've been. Not showing emotion and not

having emotions is impossible. So drive with me a moment. Let's explore how to manage the emotions that we do have and not suppress them.

All right, this concept of, you know, not showing emotions or pretend like we have them is so impossible

because it gets us the thinking don't have emotions. Emotions are wrong. Man, those are not the kind of people I'm attracted to.

I want people that feel, feel the beauty of life,

the tragedy of life that they feel and they're real about it.

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