Managing Marital Entropy...Why Doing Something, ANYTHING For Your Marriage...is Better Than Nothing At All!

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 17 November 2020

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

For most of us, when we think of our marital relationships our minds don’t immediately go to the second law of thermodynamics, or entropy, but according to some marriage researchers, there is definitely a correlation. According to Stephen F. Duncan, entropy suggests that “starting on your wedding day, your marriage will begin a slow downward slide--that is unless you take action. Entropy is caused by inattention to the emotionally soft underbelly of a marriage, which needs constant attention. We have to do something active to counteract the erosion processes that are a natural and normal part of most marriages.” In today’s episode, we’ll talk about what that action looks like, and Tony will give a sneak peek of sorts to his upcoming Magnetic Marriage course on marriage communication. Tony references the article Resisting Marital Entropy by Sue Bergin https://magazine.byu.edu/article/resisting-marital-entropy/ -This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across the country PLEASE do not think that you can’t continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your own mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch)offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight. -Tony also mentioned his appearances this week on two podcasts, The Betrayed, The Addicted and The Expert with hosts Ashlyn and Coby, and Virtual Couch former guest Brannon Patrick where we discuss narcissism in detail and the challenges people face in relationships with narcissistic individuals https://www.betrayedaddictedexpert.com/podcast/episode/25d19bf1/is-narcissism-nature-or-nurture (https://www.betrayedaddictedexpert.com/podcast/episode/25d19bf1/is-narcissism-nature-or-nurture) and The Millennial Member Podcast hosted by Emily Ensign where we discuss the topic of pornography, what helps with recovery, and what doesn’t https://www.buzzsprout.com/1072564/6209683-tony-overbay-pornography-and-recovery-Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript click here https://descript.com?lmref=v95myQ-Please subscribe to The Virtual Couch YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/ (https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/) and sign up at http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) to learn more about Tony’s upcoming “Magnetic Marriage” program!-Tony's FREE parenting course, “Tips For Parenting Positively Even In the Not So Positive Times” is available NOW. Just go to https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/ (https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/)and sign up today.

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0:00.0	Coming up on today's episode of the virtual couch, what if you just simply leave your marriage to just happen?
0:06.1	What if you don't actively or intentionally look for ways or tools or things to improve your marriage?
0:11.6	According to some researchers, you are at risk of marital entropy, meaning that starting on your wedding day, your marriage will begin a slow downward slide unless you take action.
0:21.6	We'll talk about that. What kind of action to take and so much more on today's episode of the virtual couch.
0:26.6	Oh, oh, oh, oh. Come on and take a seat on the virtual couch.
0:49.3	Hey, everybody, welcome to episode 233 of the virtual couch.
0:53.7	I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage
0:55.4	and family therapist, certified mindful I'm at coach, writer, speaker, husband, father, four,
0:58.7	ultramarathon runner and creator of the Pathback, which is now at Pathback 2.0. The Pathback is a
1:04.6	pornography recovery program that is helping people reclaim their lives from the harmful effects of
1:09.1	pornography. If you or anybody that you know is trying to put pornography behind them once and for all, and trust me, it can be
1:15.0	done, and I'm not kidding, and a strength-based, hold the shame, become the person you always
1:19.9	want to be way, then head over to PathbackRecovery.com, and there you will find a short
1:24.4	e-book that describes five myths that people overlook when trying to remove
1:28.7	pornography from their lives once and for all. Again, that's pathback recovery.com. And
1:33.2	Pathback 2.0 is just exciting. So every Wednesday now as part of the Pathback 2.0, I actually do
1:39.2	an hour-long Q&A, and we're getting a pretty good group together that is showing up week after week.
1:44.7	There's the forum now that is active and flourishing.
1:49.2	So if you're interested in even just checking out the Q&A call, go ahead and email me at
1:54.0	contact at Tonyoverbay.com and I will give you access to that Q&A call and you can take a look
1:59.2	at what the Pathback 2.0 is really about.
2:02.4	And speaking of groups, I've mentioned this on a few different episodes and I have started a
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