Some couples that we've talked to, they're actually afraid to make boundaries with their extended family, which only points out the problem that they need to make the boundaries and ask the Lord for courage to do that.

Otherwise, it will leak into the marriage and you will be basically trying to arrange your marriage and family around them and their demands.

And it's actually loving them to help them understand that that's not healthy.

It's not healthy for them to live that way.

And we're not going to live that way as our family.

And so we love you, but we're not going to permit that in our marriage.

Howdy, folks, welcome back to the Real Marriage podcast this season.

We are talking about relationships.

We all have many different relationships in our lives and none more important than our relationship

with Christ and our spouse. But are there other relationships in your life that are hurting

your most important ones? That's what we're talking about today.

So when you're seeing someone who's living life in the flesh, so that's the source that they're

making their decisions from, that's the values that they're carrying forth, what are some

indicators that somebody's living in the

flesh? They're really selfish. I think like you said, it's not about serving someone else.

It's about winning or taking. It's very one-sided relationship. It can be an exhausting

relationship if the person doesn't come to the point where they're willing to see some of the things that they're living in the flesh about.

It's hard to just do life in a healthy, peaceful way with those people.

So if you're in the flesh, you're living a life that God can and won't bless.

So it's not going to go well. Yep. I mean, here it talks about rivalries and dissensions and

orgies and drunkenness and the Holy Spirit's like, I'm not going to help you with any of that.

Right. So at that point, you are living a really sad life and a pretty exhausting life and a non-productive

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