Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

How could we be better skilled in love?

My beautiful friend Emily got me a gorgeous book written by Ticknaardhan called How to Love, which is a collection of

some of his favorite sayings and passages from his different speeches and books.

And I wanted to read you a passage here, one of my favorites, where he speaks about making mistakes.

Okay? Since we're human beings, we make mistakes.

We cause others to suffer. We hurt our loved ones and we feel regret. But without making mistakes, there is no way to learn. If you can learn from your mistakes, then you have already transformed

garbage into flowers. Very often our mistakes come from our unskilfulness and not because we

want to harm one another. I think of our behaviour in terms of being more or less

skillful rather than in terms of good or bad. If you are skillful, you can avoid making yourself

suffer and the other person suffer. If there's something you want to tell

the other person, then you have to say it, but do so skillfully in a way that leads to less

rather than more suffering.

Think about that, my friends.

Our mistakes come from our unskilfulness,

not because we want to harm one another.

I think about that sometimes, and I think about anyone who I may have perceived to have harmed me.

And I immediately do feel this softening in my body when I think,

huh, what if she or he just wasn't skilled in communicating with me or skilled in understanding their own emotional state.

Maybe they were confused.

Maybe they were in pain.

And that is what clouded their ability to be perhaps more calm, perhaps more present,

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