Making Friends As An Adult
The Waves: Gender, Relationships, Feminism
Slate Podcasts
4.2 • 903 Ratings
🗓️ 27 April 2023
⏱️ 35 minutes
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Summary
On this week’s episode of The Waves, finding friends as an adult. Slate executive editor Susan Matthews is joined by author, comedian, and musician Lane Moore to talk about Moore’s new book You Will Find Your People. They dig into the necessity of healthy boundaries, letting go of old friendships that no longer serve you, and the importance of deep friendships that require work.
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| 0:18.7 | Welcome to the waves, Slate's podcast about gender, feminism, and this week, friendship and all of its complications. Every episode you get a new pair of feminists to talk about the thing we can't get off our minds. |
| 0:25.0 | And today you've got me, Susan Matthews, executive editor of Slate, and later in the show, Lane Moore, |
| 0:32.0 | who is a comedian actor, musician, and writer of multiple books. |
| 0:36.0 | Most recently, you will find your people how to make meaningful relationships as an adult. |
| 0:42.0 | This is a book that is all about friendships, what can go |
| 0:45.5 | right, what can go wrong, and how to make them work for you. I immediately |
| 0:51.3 | wanted to read this book when I heard it was coming out for a few different reasons. |
| 0:55.1 | I think first that as I've grown older I've gotten strangely like more self-conscious about my friendships |
| 1:01.0 | and the state of my friendships. It's something that I think about a lot. |
| 1:04.4 | It's like not as easy when you're past the school years to really maintain and |
| 1:09.0 | cultivate meaningful relationships. And I think that that really hit me a couple years ago when I moved out of New York City, |
| 1:16.1 | where I had lived for more than a decade, and all of a sudden was in a totally new place |
| 1:22.2 | kind of without my friends. This happened to me. the and contemplating all these issues in the years that followed. |
| 1:36.2 | But for me, I think that while that time was pretty isolating for many of us, it really forced me to take stock of my |
| 1:44.1 | friendships and connections and what I wanted out of them and how I wanted to make |
| 1:48.8 | sure that they kept growing in a whole new way. I have since moved back to New York City and I'm back near so many of my friends |
| 1:56.4 | but I still think that what this book made me realize is that friendship requires the same |
| 2:01.3 | deliberate action that romantic relationships often require to make |
| 2:05.8 | sure that it's set up to really serve both people. |
| 2:11.4 | So I'm so excited to talk with Lane Moore about how she came to this subject and what she |
| 2:16.2 | learned working on this project. |
| 2:18.4 | We're going to take a quick break, but we'll come back to that full conversation in just a moment. AI might be the most important innovation ever. It's storming every |
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