Making a Mother E1: Did I Do Something Wrong?

Coffee + Crumbs Podcast

Ashlee Gadd

Storytelling, Kids & Family, Religion & Spirituality, Toddlers, Friendship, Pregnancy, Grace, Coffee, Adoption, Miscarriage, Parenting, Motherhood, Newborn, Christianity, Crumbs

4.8 • 1.8K Ratings

🗓️ 8 January 2025

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

After struggling with infertility, IVF and multiple losses, Kate and her paraplegic husband choose to pursue adoption through the foster care system. Meanwhile, Cindy—battling homelessness and addiction—gives birth to her sixth child, a boy, who is immediately removed from her care. In the next episode, we learn how these two women’s stories collide and intertwine in the most unexpected ways. Content warning: sexual assault and pregnancy loss.

“Making a Mother” is a production of Coffee + Crumbs.

Executive Producer, Writer: Ashlee Gadd.

Producer, Writer, Host: Julie Vlahon.

Music, Sound Design, Mix Engineer: Scott Vlahon

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0:00.0	First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby and the baby carriage.
0:10.7	What does that mean?
0:13.2	That means first you fall in up, then you get married, then you have a baby.
0:21.1	Is that how it works?
0:22.7	Yes.
0:23.7	That's my seven-year-old daughter.
0:25.5	The other day we were watching Lady in the Tramp, and she asked me,
0:29.2	Mom, how do dogs get married?
0:31.1	I told her, dogs don't get married.
0:33.9	And she thought for a second and said,
0:35.8	then how do they have babies?
0:38.0	To her, that is how life works.
0:40.4	It's simple and uncomplicated.
0:43.0	You fall in love, you get married, you have a baby.
0:47.0	That's what I thought too when I was her age.
0:49.8	But what happens when life doesn't work that way?
0:53.1	What happens when the songs and dreams we've carried from childhood don't come true?
0:59.0	When I was a little girl, I did not have a reference for any other way to become a mother.
1:06.0	But as I got older and began to witness my friends experiencing different forms of infertility and loss
1:12.9	and trauma. That familiar song from my childhood started to sound too simple, which begs the question,
1:22.8	how many women enter motherhood through a more complicated journey? How many women are carrying
1:29.4	untold stories of heartache and grief? From Coffee and Crumbs, I'm Julie Valon, and you're
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