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This is Laura.

Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

Today's tip is to make jealousy your teacher.

Instead of letting it eat you up, let it nudge you to do what you know you should be doing.

Today's tip was inspired by Mel Robbins' recent book, The Let Them Theory.

In this book, she talks about letting other people be who they are, with no expectations

that they will be different.

Then, you can control how you react to who and how they are.

Handled right, this mindset can be liberating by helping us focus on what is within our power to change and not what isn't.

Anyway, Robin spends a section talking about how and why people compare themselves with others.

Life is most definitely not fair.

Some people grow up in troubled circumstances.

Some people have fewer resources than others.

Some people have health problems or are caring for family members with health issues.

It can be easy to compare and limit.

But Mel notes that there are two different types of comparison that people engage in,

torture or teacher. You can use comparison to your advantage if you figure out how to make it more

of your teacher. The first type of jealousy, torture, is when you are obsessed with something that you cannot change.

Someone else being taller than you is an example here. There's really not that much you can do

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