The Black Effect presents Family Therapy and I'm your host Elliot Connie.

Jay is the woman in this dynamic who is currently co-parenting two young boys with her former partner David.

David, he is a leader.

He just don't want to leave me.

But how do you lead a woman?

How do you lead in a relationship?

Like, what's the blue part?

David, you just ask the most important question.

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Good morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast Podcast.

Today's tip is to make boundaries positive.

There are all sorts of things

we would prefer not to do for reasons of work life balance.

But rather than make these sound negative and focused on what we won't do, we can point

out what we still can do, because it's usually still a lot.

Today's tip like some others this week comes from Laura May Martin's new book uptime.

Martin is Google's productivity guru and she coaches executives there on how to be more efficient.

In her book she notes that the bridge between boundaries and approachability is the right communication.

The best way to communicate boundaries is to frame from the positive.

You highlight what you will do, not what you won't.

So, for example, I don't take meetings on Fridays becomes,

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