Hi everybody. Welcome to the Women's Dating and Confidence Podcast. My name is Amber, and today we're going to be

talking about maintaining a chase. Before we get into that, I want to share with you my free guide. It's called copy and

paste texts for when he's pulling away or acting flaky. There's going to be a link for that in the show notes.

Okay, so let's get right into it. This is the number one question that I'm asked on

Instagram when people message me their questions for the show, some version

of this, and also in sessions with clients where we go really deeply into it. So the first thing

that I want you to consider is how does it feel when you think I need him to chase me? Because the

only reason you're saying, how do I get him to chase me is because you're thinking, I need him to chase me. Because the only reason you're saying, how do I get him to chase me

is because you're thinking, I need him to chase me. How does that feel when you need something

from the other person? It probably feels not good. It feels constricting. It feels urgent. It feels out of control. It feels powerless

because you're depending on the other person to do something for you to feel a certain way.

And then I want you to ask yourself, how would I feel if he did chase me?

Why is it important that he chases you?

Most women that I speak to say, well, I feel like I'm powerful.

I feel like I'm the chooser.

I feel like I could relax because I'm not wondering if he likes me all the time.

I would feel in control.

I would have the upper hand.

So basically, when you're saying that in order to feel powerful and in control of my life

and sufficient and good about myself and at peace with who I am in my situation,

I need something from him. And with one person in particular that I was speaking with,

I was like, how do you feel with men controlling you? Because if you're saying that somebody else has to do something for

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